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What I Learned from Pushing the Prowler - Why am I making a big deal out of this innocent piece of fairly common gym equipment? Have we met? Blowing things out of proportion and overthinking them is kinda my thing. It's not all bad though, because I think I've managed to learn a lesson from all the overthinking.…
On Failure - Fear of failure is paralysing. It is like a neurotoxin that infects ideas and inspiration and turns them into frustration. Starting somewhere in my brain manifesting as a thought in the back of my mind. It grows rapidly infecting every part of my body with sickening writhing tendrils spreading panic…
The Bar - Before you roll your eyes and sigh at me for going all 'gym zen' remember I have always shared with you the ups and downs and the things that have helped me on my wellness journey. On the 14th November 2014 I made a confession to you. I told you…
An Uncomfortable Paralysis - I got up from this chair and walked around the apartment 7 or 8 times before finally settling down to write. Even now as I type I can feel the discomfort brewing. Building up, trying to take away my focus and scuttle my intention.   It starts as a churning…
Fourteen Months and Counting - It’s been over a year since I found the courage to ask for help. 14 months ago I embraced vulnerability and walked into a doctor’s office. I learned how medicine could give me the shield I needed to find the space between my anixety and my authentic self. In therapy…
To-do vs Can-do or Obligations vs Opportunities - I sat down early this morning to start work on a to-do list. It’s time to snap out of holiday mode (I’ve been back for weeks) and continue progressing some of my goals for this year. As I started writing - greyhound media campaign - kindness crew and other volunteering…
Bad People vs Bad Choices and Self Compassion - As I sat with a dear friend recently, who was going through a time of suffering, a simple concept became crystal clear to me. We spend a lot of time saying things to ourselves that we would never say to someone we cared about. We tell ourselves we are a…
Shadows - Sometimes I write in metaphor because that is how I tend to think. I was thinking about suffering and pain today and wanted to share with you the idea that it can be OK to 'just be' with pain sometimes. This is how I think about it:   Sometimes I…
Don’t Panic – Why I’m Doing the Mystery Box Rally - I was having a virtual stroll around the Interwebs when I noticed a post from my friend Claire. Her co-driver for the 2016 Mystery Box Rally had dropped out and she needed a replacement. I knew she was entering and essentially what the rally was - Teams will drive unknown…
Connections - “Life is a tapestry woven from the threads of our connections” I attempted to muse thoughtfully via my usual outlet - a Facebook status update. Recent output on this ‘channel’ had ranged from cheese and wine emergencies, failed attempts to adult and sharing of inspirational memes.( I wonder how many…
Breakfast for One - I'm writing from a coffee shop, on my phone, which probably isn't that unusual in the grand scheme of things. However I'm here on my own, I'm not waiting for anyone. I've got my coffee and some breakfast and I'm feeling quite content. The thought of dining alone, or doing…
Medicating for Anxiety - I started taking Lexapro, an SSRI, for my anxiety in July 2015 at the age of 35. I had suffered from varying degrees of anxiety and depression my whole life but have always considered it to just be part of me. It was my personality. My fear, moods and hopelessness…
Two Stories - Morning Friends I'm going to tell you two stories. Both are true. One Recently I lost everything. My wife, my family, my home. I experienced my heart break as 12 years of marriage crumbled because I couldn't do enough to save it. I failed the person I had pledged to…
An Important Lesson - I think I have learned an important and almost costly lesson. I don’t know how many of you see a psychologist regularly and what your sessions are like, or how those of you that don’t imagine the sessions to be. I’ll tell you a little about mine. I tend to…